It’s been said that if we find ourselves being everything to everyone, most often we have neglected self. I’m certainly understanding this more and more.
Once we begin to neglect our self…this world will follow suit.
In the past, I’ve tried to always stay connected…regardless of the situation.
I’m tired….tired of doing 99% of the work it takes to maintain a relationship. If I don’t touch base with you, if I don’t text you, if I don’t plan something…nothing is planned.
The notion that I only hear from you is when you need something is over as well.
I’ve already set my phone to Do Not Disturb…the only time my phone actually rings is if my one and only son calls me. I have to add a 210 area code to that list when I finish this post because I have a new phone…and I love to hear her voice. Baby girl; her and I have had one conversation about this and I’m going to have another one with her soon. These days I check text messages and respond accordingly. In this season I am focused on my son and his father’s healing. I am focused on praying him as well as his father through their process.
The Three Amigos
It still saddens me to think of those I asked to pray with me for him and the first response is how awful of a person he was…from people who don’t even know him personally. Folks is something else. Like literally don’t even know his name. For the record; my sons father was never awful to me. He may have been alot of things and he may have been not the best but he was there. Most often we have to grow up before the realization hits. We never went without what we needed! Didn’t get everything we wanted but who does? He was better than most father’s I’ve witnessed. He did better than most men I know! He did the best he could at the time and has definitely learned some life lessons. His father left this earth before he ever got to know him…still a baby himself!!!
The two of us know our story…we know our truth! What the world thinks is irrelevant!!! We’ve both had to set a few straight and then life teaches you that you don’t owe anyone an explanation about 20 years of your life and you certainly don’t owe an explanation of our friendship now. He gave me the best gift of all…My Sunshine. Our Golden Child! And for that I am forever grateful.
Nothing else matters!
On another note; I cooked black eyed peas, ribs and yellow rice for my husband. I make the very best homemade BBQ sauce. My husband says it should be on shelves. How neat would that be. The peas are full of goodness from Vetta’s Garden. Onions, garlic, bell peppers, okra and lots of herbs as well as peppers. Cooking is certainly a passion of mine. Life without passion is not for me.
Sometimes you have to just let others keep on living to understand things! Some will. Some won’t!
In the meantime, you keep on living as well and don’t forget to drink your water.
Blessings Abounding, Vetta 💌